Summer Fun and an Update

We have been quite busy since school let out- it always feels like the days drag when school is in and they fly by over the summer. Which also means most days I have no idea what day it is. I like not knowing. Lol

Our vacation was simple and nice. It’s a family tradition for the last 22 years with Barry’s family to meet up in Gulf Shores, AL. We cram 40 people into a 4 bedroom beach house, try to keep the sand out of our beds and keep your flip flops on at all times otherwise your feet will be black. It’s fun. It’s crowded. It’s up late playing games and jumping waves.
This year was totally different for Barry and I because we had Eli. Lots of chasing him around and staying inside instead of going out at night. I was born for this. I love all this time with Eli and I totally embrace this new chapter of our lives.
It was his first trip to the beach and we think he did quite well. He wasn’t crazy about the sand- especially when it got into his clothing, but who blames him?
He loved the water but we knew he would. He’s a water baby pure and simple. He would get so angry because we wouldn’t let him crawl into the waves with the other kids. Next year, child, next year.
He tolerated the heat for about 46-60 minutes and then he was ready for a nap.
The kid slept a lot!!! At least two naps a day and he slept in late every day (one day until 9:30!! Hooray!!).

We also took Eli to the zoo for the first time. I had found this zoo called “the little zoo that could” only 3 miles away from our condo! It wasn’t much from the outside but totally adorable on the inside. It was the perfect size for Eli- kept his attention. We also got to hold kangaroos!! Mom win!

The drive wasn’t terrible either. He definitely needs more stimulus on longer trips than he did before. That’s a challenge. In light of that, we made the 10 hour drive home overnight instead. It was much easier on Eli but rough on us. I can’t sleep in cars or planes so I was beat when we got home at 4am. And so was Barry since he drove all night. We were worthless on Saturday.
We slept and cleaned. And swept up sand. Lol

Now that we are back, our calendar has been filled up. I’m excited to have time for play dates and fun with friends.

I’ve also already begun to work in Ruby’s room again.
We have started to work with a doula (thanks Leslie!!!) and the induction date has been set for August 4!!!! Which means my anxiety has peaked. I’m excited but I’ve also been worrying. I think like any mom, I’ve been worrying about the health of the baby, the delivery, our new family adjustment…it’s a lot. Plus thinking about the financial side of it- my friends and family have been so amazing. We have been saving every penny toward Ruby’s room and attorney fees. We have also been fundraising through various programs and we are getting so close to our goal!! We are overwhelmed by everyone’s generosity.
When we did our IVF we didn’t raise any funds: we lost all our savings and went into major debt to afford it. It took us a little over a year to pay it all back but we did. This time around we wanted to be smarter about it- especially because we do have Eli to think about as well.
The response has been amazing. We really were meant to get this little girl and we couldn’t be more thrilled at this amazing opportunity.

I didn’t realize how emotional I was about all of this until I sat down at my computer last night to write Eli’s birth story. (I’m participating in a T21 book project!! Awesomeness!!) I cried a lot.
And I just got done watching The Little Couple and I’m Having Their Baby- because all my summer shows are back and apparently I wanted to cry. Lol no but seriously, it just feels surreal. I’m excited and nervous all at the same time. What did we ever do to deserve all of this? God is so good and I feel incredibly lucky to say that this is our special journey to building our family.
Anxiety is there but excitement takes over for sure.

What else is new? We got Eli fitted for AFO’s. After speaking with the doctor at Hope Orthotics, we decided to give it a try. Our insurance covers them and we aren’t 100% sure any one doctor is right.
Most of our friends use them and we know that crawling and walking open up so many doors for cognitive development- it’s important.
Most of our friends also report that their child’s ankle pronation has not improved since beginning to use SMO’s or AFO’s. This flies in the face of what the orthopedic doctor suggested.
Infact, two doctors we spoke to said his ankles would build strength and correct themselves over time on their own.
Two said that because of his low tone, he will always be able to build strength but his ankles will never align properly due to low tone. His tone is just who he is. His strength can change but not his tone.
The DS clinic recommended them immediately and his PT is advocating for them. So we decided to give them a try. It’s a hard choice to make because there are so many conflicting opinions. If we don’t like them or they don’t help then we won’t continue to use them.
More to come on this I’m sure.

Whew! What un update! Lol I guess I had more to say than I thought.
Settled back into the house and ready for more summer fun!

Check us out on Instagram @thosenewmans to follow our summer antics.

Us Time

20120901-063914.jpgThis weekend is unique in many ways. It’s my first weekend after a week back at work. It’s Barry’s birthday weekend. It’s the first weekend we have been away from Eli for more than a few hours. If you follow us on instagram, you got to see my sappy pictures as we left 😉 lol I know, I’m a nerd.

At last years Newman/Rolader Beach Trip, all the young Newman’s decided we should get together and do something big. So here I am, sitting literally on top of lake livingston, a storm brewing on the far side of the lake and the wind blowing in my hair. It’s bittersweet. I still have to pump while I’m away, which makes me miss Eli more. Oh how I miss him….I cried most of the way here. But this time with Barry is so special…we need “us time” too.
My sweet sister is watching him while we are away so I know he is in good hands. 🙂 I bet they are having fun right now! I will update you on our trip when we return. Hope everyone is having a great weekend!

Summer–We have a plan!!

We have been in Gulf Shores since Saturday morning and so far I’ve had a great time. I spent more time out in the water this year than I have in years past. It’s not that the water has been nicer, in fact, I think it is about on-par with Galveston. Maybe a bit more clear, but just as much seaweed and junk. I got a slight sunburn by day 2, which stinks but it doesn’t really hurt so that is nice. Today I am staying in because I don’t want to get more burned and we have Ashley’s baby shower. Good excuse to let my skin heal. It was nice to spend time with family and a beautiful beach! 🙂
Friday was crazy, though!! I left work early because I was feeling anxious about our doctor’s visit and about getting everything done before we had to leave. The yard still never got mowed and I feel really terrible because it looks so bad. Oh well!
We crammed everything into the car and ran off to Houston. Then we came *back* to The Woodlands, ran some errand and finally set off for out trip…only for Barry to hit a curb and blow our tire. lol That was the only thing that held us back, though.

So we wound up being late to our appointment because of Houston traffic and Barry picking me up with little time to spare. Dr. C was good with it though, and sat us down to discuss our tests. He explained that everything still looked good with me and then went into everything that we would need to do in order to work with poor sperm morphology. With male-factor infertility we will most likley be unable to conceive naturally, which is why we haven’t had much luck so far. So now we are moving on to more aggressive methods…this month we will try an IUI, which is essentially artificial insemination. I will explain it more in a minute.
He initially wanted me to come in between CD 1-5 and have blood work to check hormone levels, but I was concerned about our vacation interferring with that (didn’t know when AF would show up). So his next suggestion was to scrap this month and wait until next month. No. lol I just outright said no. So now we are on a *new* plan! lol
Basically, AF showed up on Sunday, so the timing wound up perfect. I will go in for blood work and an ultrasound on Thursday, the day we return from our trip. That will also be the day I start Clomid. He is putting me in the highest dosage of Clomid to induce ovulation at a specific time. Under normal circumstances I wouldn’t be a canditate for Clomid, but this is a controlled setting. He needs to control how many eggs my body releases and control when they are released. We want my body to produce more eggs because it will increase our chances and an IUI requires that I am ovulating.
The way an IUI works is like this: After intense monitoring, Barry and I will come into his office. Dr. Cook with inject me with a medicine that will force my body to release all the new mature eggs. Next, he will collect a sample from Barry that will be washed (the sample sperm will be “washed” of undesierable sperms so that a higher concentration of health sperm are present). Then he will take those sperm and use a cathader to insert them into my uterus. That’s it! Not very romantic, but it will hopefully do the job. I will come back in 2 weeks to take a pregnancy test and then we will go from there.
An IUI does increase my chances of multiples, which I am not concerned about. I figure, if we get 2 with our first pregnancy, then we don’t need to go through all this again. I’m also feeling a bit relieved. There won’t be anymore pressure to preform sexually for either of us. It’s literally ruined our sex life, so while this is not the ideal baby-making situation, we will at least get our intimacy back. 🙂
IUI’s have the same % chances as a normal health couple TTC, so it’s nice to finally be on an even playing field. And I’ve been following blogs and forums with encouraging IUI stories and results. So we will see. I will keep everyone updated. (Crazy how quickly we went from stopping our attempts at TTC to getting the right doctor to move forward and try again!!)
I did find out that I had to stop taking my Vitex. Which I am ok with. I was willing to try anything to get pregnant, so if herbal vitamins are not good, I won’t take it! lol There are mixed reviews on that kind of stuff anyhow. But we want to do this right, so 1 month of it and done!
So I guess that is my update for right now! Relaxing at the beach has helped the days fly by and to ease my mine about all of this. I’m just more relaxed and ready to move forward. Lucky for me AF picked a good time to come…Thursday, you hold much promise 🙂