35 Weeks

It’s been a while since my last post, and I’m ok with that. I wouldn’t say that we have gone off the “grid” but we have been pulling back a bit (except for IG, which I don’t think I would ever get rid of lol).
Just been trying to enjoy time with Eli and prepare for Miss Ruby.

We enjoyed a trip to Alabama and then a shorter trip to Fort Worth. Now we feel like it’s time to focus on getting my lesson plans finished for my time out, get paperwork in order and prepare to hunker down for big changes ahead.
While on our trip to Fort Worth I discovered the fun of sympathy crying. Not for one second did I believe that having two children 16 months apart was going to be easy, but there are still many things I didn’t account for- like Eli deciding it’s a good time for him to cry when another baby cries.
Every time my friends’ children would cry, Eli’s lip would pout out and he would begin to echo their sadness. Or he would wake from a long over-due nap to add to the crying song. It was special. And something I had not even thought about happening.
He also wasn’t too keen on me holding another child while holding him. And suddenly became super clingy last night while visiting family.
Yup. This should be super awesome. 🙂 I’m joking…slightly concerned…but too excited and happy to let it worry me too much.

This past weekend we had our shower to celebrate Ruby. It was truly amazing. Eli’s shower was so full of love and support- everyone came out read to walk through Holland together with us. Our amazing friends and family came through again and proved just how lucky and blessed we are to have them all in our lives. Let’s just say I have a lot of thank you notes to write. A LOT.
I came home and set to work organizing her room and evaluating what we still need to purchase. I have so much more to do before she arrives, but I’ve been having so much fun preparing.

Ruby is doing well. She is on the small side, which is a concern for me because I worry about everything. The birth mother is about 35 weeks now and Ruby is around 4lb 13oz. Eli was born at 35 weeks weighing 2lbs more!
The doctors were concerned with two measurements- the head and tummy- which are the first two areas to show signs of stress on a baby. Her head is small, but brain is on target. Her tummy is 2 days behind which isn’t a super big deal. The main issues are making sure that the birth mother continues to take good care of herself, eat well and stay hydrated so Ruby can stay in as long as possible. There is a lot going into this particular situation- please cover it in prayer 🙂 Thank you!
Currently they have set her induction for August 4, but they are waiting for the strep B culture to come back before settling on this plan 100%.
They gave the birth mother a steroid shot to help mature her lungs just in case we do see an early delivery.
She is active, and has enough hair that it can be seen on ultrasound- eyelashes too!
Overall, Ruby is doing well and we are getting anxious to meet her.

We’ve gotten so close to our goal with paying for the lawyer fees and the extra stuff that comes along with adoption (Thanks guys- you are the best!!!). We have the paperwork from the lawyer ready to go, I am working on a bag for the hospital and we have been in talks with the hospital regarding our rooming situation. Feeling ready.

I’m feeling so many emotions right now and I feel like I have more to say, but for now I think this will be a good update.
I hope everyone is having an awesome summer and trying to stay cool!!
I will be posting pictures of the nursery soon. 🙂

Lamaze Classes

We attended our first Lamaze class last night and I loved it! The teacher was very knowledgable and the techniques were right in line with our thinking. I’ve been reading this book: and the class just reinforced what it is saying. This book is amazing because it talks about all the medical interventions that are possible, how to avoid them or what alternatives might be. It also weighs the risks and benfits of certain procedures/interventions. I love the approach and the fact that it covers all medical options.
Our instructor spoke a lot about building our confidence to birth our babies and is working to empower the class to know what their options are. Me likey.
Yesterday was mainly an introduction and then a few basics: what is a doula? what are some simple pain management techniques? what does the pregnant anatomy look like?
The other couples were very quite and awkward. I think Barry and I spoke the entire time and answered all the questions. Maybe because we actually knew the answers? Or everyone is just that embarrassed about their bodies…who knows?
The teacher had us do a few deep breathing techniques and then had hubbies try on the pregnancy suit. 🙂 That was my favorite part. Isn’t he just handsome? Barry had a hard time moving around, bending over and even sitting. It also has a component on the inside that restricts breathing. It weighs a total of 35lbs and made me immensly happy.

Next we watched a live birth, similiar to one we had already seen on The Business of Being Born. It was really neat but a bit overwhelming. Not because anything the birthing mother did- simply my own anixety about birthing. The last time I saw anything like that we were trying to get pregnant. Now that I actually am, it was a different experience. To complicate it, the teacher next had us hold a handful of crushed ice for a full minute to simulate what a contraction would be like. If you have ever held ice in your hand for a long time it can be painful but not terrible. The thing that made it terrible was my own anxiety. I was tapping my foot and clenching my eyes closed tightly by the time the minute was up. Knowing that I could end the pain by releasing the ice made the anxiety high, but also thinking about what a contraction might feel like got me worked up. lol I know, I know…silly, huh? So fearful of the unknown.
I know my body was made for this and I know I can do it! {If Eli would flip, darnit!!} And I *want* do to this. So it was a nice exposure and practice.
We learned the difference between practice labor and real labor and then she gave Barry homework- a back massage.

It was a busy evening for sure, but so so worth it. I really enjoyed the techniques and the all natural approach. We have 3 more classes and then we will be graduated. 😉
Hope that means we are ready for our little man!!

Oh! One more picture- This is a picture from my baby shower at work on Friday. My awesome awesome team 🙂

Baby Shower!

So I know I promised a weekly update but now the week is pretty much over and I never had the time to do one! lol
This weekend was so busy! On Friday my co-workers gave me a shower and then on Saturday my mom did. It was so nice!! I felt so loved 🙂

My Friday baby shower was more beautiful than I had imagined. My team went all out and transformed our work room into an elegant little tea room. All my friends stopped by and as they dropped off presents I opened them and we talked.
Some highlights: the punch was ah-mazing!, my team pitched in and got Eli his highchair, a dear friend bought me the sweetest book, and I loaded up on diapers. 🙂 It was so sweet of my co-workers to think of Eli and I- we so appreciate their generosity.

Saturday was even more amazing! My mom picked this small catering company right around the corner from her house. It seems like nothing on the outside and I drove right past it on the way there because it’s so hidden. But inside it was beautiful! Reminded me of some place you might host a small-scale wedding.
I really can’t say enough about my shower that my mom threw. It was way above and beyond any expectations I could have had. The food was amazing- apricot brie, asparagus rolls, cucumber sandwiches, elegant desserts…
Everyone was dressed so nicely too! My mom, my sister and my meme stole the show with their stunning dresses!!
Then of course there were the presents. I didn’t realize how many there were until I sat down to open them. I think I spent an hour opening gifts? WOW! Eli is so loved!! 🙂
We took a ton of photos, ate too much food, and I have officially been showered! It took us from 4:00-10:00pm to unpack everything from the car, open everything up and find homes for all our new stuff (I have more crib sheets than anyone could ever need lol). I would say that we are pretty much set for Eli to get here.

After presents I had my sister read Welcome to Holland for everyone. I don’t know how she didn’t cry because I boo-hooed the whole time. lol But it was the most accurate way to let everyone know where we are at right now. So overjoyed to be having our miracle baby yet so apprehensive about what that means with his diagnosis. My family responded with: “We can’t wait to go to Holland with you!” Aren’t they amazing? They have already boarded the plane, so to speak. 😉

I want to say a HUGE thank you to all my family and friends! I am so so blessed and feel overwhelmed by your giving hearts! This child is loved unconditionally and I can’t wait to share him with all of you!

My drive home was very surreal! I felt so overwhelmed that I cried. Overwhelmed that this is really happening and that my life is about to change forever. Overwhelmed at the love my family and friends showed. Overwhelmed because this is all just so surreal…in a good way. 🙂

A few things that we still need:
-diaper bag (I also need to find a good list of what to take to the hospital)
-breast pump (oh joy)
-changing table pad/cover
-mattress cover
-cosmetic stuff…

And now we are at Sunday. I woke up with fluid in my ears, a stuffed up nose and a puffy face. Awesome lol
I don’t know what on earth happened but I think I am sick…or getting sick. Again.
I think today will be dedicated to taking it a bit easier than yesterday. Who knew showers could be so much work?! I literally spent the whole morning cleaning the house and preparing for my shower…and then the whole day/evening picking up and putting stuff away. Impossible to avoid puffy feet that way!

When my photographer gets the pictures put together, I will happily share. Until then, enjoy these little teasers. 🙂
Hope everyone had a wonderful weekend!